A friend’s blog has prompted me today to explore my “why”.

Why do I get out of bed, why do I have a radio show, why do I write books, why why why??

“To live is the rarest thing in the world.

Most people exist, that is all.” 
Oscar Wilde

It’s quite a good thing to ponder on this winters’ day sipping pinot grigio at the local surf club. Why…

I am not 100% equivocal on my overall why but I do know the following:

I know when I was 10 years old, that I wanted to be famous, represent Australia and to help as many people as I can. This is still my same why. It helps me get out of bed and is never far from who I am as a person. It is my why.

Since writing my why when I was 10 years old, I have added layers to my “why” and am continually challenged on my why. If I stayed true to my “why” every day, then I wouldn’t be distracted, waste time and experience bad things.

My why has always lead to relief, greater gains and higher purpose. Interestingly my why takes me out of my why,  which is to focus on us/you and the world.

There is something in me that I can’t quite explain. That I haven’t got words for. And I think , struggling now and hoping the pinot fills the gaps with words, that it is love and connection. Somehow if I can create love and connection it enables me to feel love and connected? Does that make sense? That is probably more my daily why.

If I can create connection and love for people (in my clinic, my contacts, my family – my little world) then not only is my why being fulfilled but I know I am receiving some love and connection. Is that selfish? Maybe – but as long as we all get to bathe in the love and connection, it must be a good thing.

What is your why?

If you don’t have a why you may feel a bit lost.

I know many people who see me as clients either don’t have a “why” or have lost their why (e.g. the kids were their why and then they leave the nest and they don’t have a personal why any more).

Find a why to get out of bed, to breathe deep to love more. Charities are a wonderful place to start, as is volunteering or even travelling.

Find your why and all else will follow.